Hello To all the strong single (mid 30’s) women living their own life.
My name is Jean
When I was young I didn’t think I was allowed to like my body unless I was perfect. I was lent to believe that the perfect future involved marriage and two children by the age of thirty, that we should always be strong and never cry. I often thought that if I was skinny and blonde, then I would be better accepted, but this of course would never occur in my so-called ‘world’ as I’ve always been curvier than the average girl, with crazy curly (now grey) hair and fair skin. I’ve never been particularly good or excelled at anything but I have always tried my best and given everything in life a shot! And, so from always trying and being passionate about everything in life really, I’ve sort of, and almost, figured out who I am and where I want to be.
I am now living my own life being me, for me. Not for others, but for me. I’m listening to my inner spirit and through absolute passion, commitment and curiosity, I’m striving to be the best that I can be.
This journey I have been on has taught me that it’s okay to not be okay. I have learnt to never compare myself to others. Everyone is fighting a battle of their own, so always be kind and patient as a smile can do a tremendous amount of healing. The universe has a plan for everyone, some paths are easier and quicker than others, but it’s all part of the journey.
If I could send a message to the younger me I would say Dear Jean, you’re wild, passionate and energetic with so much good to offer the world with your overly sized compassionate and caring heart. Be true to yourself, listen to your gut and wherever you go, always go with an open heart. Keep travelling, educating yourself, talking to strangers, spend time on your own and learn to love your own company. Never stop asking questions. Learn to love walking as it clears the mind and soul, do yoga and meditation to stay grounded. Only choose to spend time with those who make you feel special and wanted. Be patient, and please don’t be so hard on yourself. You are not perfect, but no one is, and if we were all perfect, then the world would be a boring and dull place! Rather keep it alive with your spirit and spontaneity.
I would like my fellow women, mothers, daughters, grannies and free spirits to know that we are all on own journey and that the universe has a plan for each one of us. By sticking together, loving one another, acceptance, complimenting one another, smiling and motivating each other – we will get stronger. As the majestic Frida Kahlo once said, “Who needs feet, when you’ve got wings to fly”.
In sharing my story with you all I have learnt that keeping emotions and your stories to yourself does not benefit the world or anyone here. Someone, somewhere wants to hear you. Through communication and trust with each another, we can solve just about everything and anything.
Something I read a while ago…
“Dear Women, Sometimes, you’ll just be too much woman. Too smart, Too beautiful, Too strong, Too much of something. That makes a man feel like less of a man, which will start making you feel like you have to be less of a woman. The biggest mistake you can make is removing jewels from your own crown to make it easier for a man to carry. When this happens, you need to understand that you do not need a smaller crown, but rather a man with bigger hands”.
